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Nov. 15th, 2019 09:22 amSo the holiday insanity has begun.
We had our biggest sale of the year last Saturday. By the time I left (45 minutes late BTW) I felt completely drained; spent the net day in bed/on the couch.
Had an honest conversation with my bf regarding my boundaries this season. I'm tired of always feeling like I "have to" be happy, do things and go places that I don't find enjoyable or make me stressed out. Also, I'm tired of always bending to everyone else's demands because I'm not married or don't have kids. My time is valuable too, and I can't afford to constantly keep buying gifts for the kids, for the adults and then I get a $25 gift card LOL
Not that it is about the money, but honestly, I think I am going to put a ten dollar limit on each person; bf and I agree our limit was $50 for each other.
I will go to only ONE of his family functions, and only ONE of mine (and that included birthday parties since both my niece and nephew have dec/jan birthdays). On thanksgiving day, I am not going anywhere because I want to stay home and cook. TBH, I'm the better cook in the family but of course no one will give me credit for that:/
I am not covering shifts for people at work, either. Sorry, but just because I don't have kids does not mean I am available 24/7.
On Christmas day, I am going to see a movie (it is a silly tradition I know but I've been doing it since I ran away from home at 16).
We agreed that one night a week will be technology free, mainly because the noise sometimes bothers me when he plays video games with his 3 brothers. Plus, we both want to work on our individual art projects and once you start scrolling online or playing games, it's hard to turn off and focus on something else.
Also, I've noticed that my attention span isn't what it used to be when it comes to reading and that is a side affect of too much screen time.Got a new super fuzzy, comfy pair of pjs and a few new books. Definitely ready to spend some peaceful time at home.
This year, I'm not going to be giving away my energy and time to people who don't appreciate me or return the favour.
Obligation and Guilt are meaningless to me in most situations. maybe I'm just becoming a bitch these days but usually i find that people who try to make me feel guilty are the ones who want something for nothing.
There is a difference between genuine community and familial bonds vs...well, my family and the company that I work for LOL
We had our biggest sale of the year last Saturday. By the time I left (45 minutes late BTW) I felt completely drained; spent the net day in bed/on the couch.
Had an honest conversation with my bf regarding my boundaries this season. I'm tired of always feeling like I "have to" be happy, do things and go places that I don't find enjoyable or make me stressed out. Also, I'm tired of always bending to everyone else's demands because I'm not married or don't have kids. My time is valuable too, and I can't afford to constantly keep buying gifts for the kids, for the adults and then I get a $25 gift card LOL
Not that it is about the money, but honestly, I think I am going to put a ten dollar limit on each person; bf and I agree our limit was $50 for each other.
I will go to only ONE of his family functions, and only ONE of mine (and that included birthday parties since both my niece and nephew have dec/jan birthdays). On thanksgiving day, I am not going anywhere because I want to stay home and cook. TBH, I'm the better cook in the family but of course no one will give me credit for that:/
I am not covering shifts for people at work, either. Sorry, but just because I don't have kids does not mean I am available 24/7.
On Christmas day, I am going to see a movie (it is a silly tradition I know but I've been doing it since I ran away from home at 16).
We agreed that one night a week will be technology free, mainly because the noise sometimes bothers me when he plays video games with his 3 brothers. Plus, we both want to work on our individual art projects and once you start scrolling online or playing games, it's hard to turn off and focus on something else.
Also, I've noticed that my attention span isn't what it used to be when it comes to reading and that is a side affect of too much screen time.Got a new super fuzzy, comfy pair of pjs and a few new books. Definitely ready to spend some peaceful time at home.
This year, I'm not going to be giving away my energy and time to people who don't appreciate me or return the favour.
Obligation and Guilt are meaningless to me in most situations. maybe I'm just becoming a bitch these days but usually i find that people who try to make me feel guilty are the ones who want something for nothing.
There is a difference between genuine community and familial bonds vs...well, my family and the company that I work for LOL